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Virtually all violent or
aggressive have originate in the goal to maintain one's status in a
reproductively competitive world. Loss of face, status, or
material goods lowers access to suitable mates.
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The most brutal and cruel act
committed by those who truly believe it righteous cannot be called evil.
Evil denotes violation of ones moral creed without
rational justification. This leaves few, if any, deeds that ever
be deemed evil.
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Moral people have a near
obsessive fascination with those who are not. The psychopathic
character dominates fiction and media.
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Morality is ultimately defined by those with
superior force and sufficient time.
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All ethical and moral values are arbitrary
artifacts from the cultures that set them forth. All political and
military greatness is derived from ignoring them.
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It is
in the interest of the weak to design societies that encumber the strong.
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Love means something different
to each user of the term. Even when sincere, your lover likely
means
something quite different than you.
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We privately crave, but
publicly loathe those parts of us that we share with beasts.
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The person most afraid of dying
is the one who has contributed the least in living.
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A person is a product of his
past and his genes. The adult maximizes his genes and the child
blames his past.
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If you must take strong action do it all at once. Incremental malice only gives your adversaries time to respond. |
Justice is elegant revenge. And revenge is justice for those who cannot
afford elegance.
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All humans are very similar,
but that similarity often leads to the erroneous presumption of
understanding. The small differences among us can lead to very
different motives and actions.
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All
fear and distress is a direct result of your perception. See it
differently and the anguish goes.
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Remind your friends often that they are indeed your friends. You
needn't remind your enemies.
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The
most fearsome adversary is one who is willing to be destroyed for
revenge. Such an adversary rarely needs to take revenge.
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It is wise to cultivate friendship and loyalty
in all domains.
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There
is no evil as those that do the most harm never believe themselves to be
malignant, and those that believe themselves to be bad most likely are
benign.
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It is foolish to expect any of those
relationships to withstand any hardship.
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It will be personally destructive to let any
of these friendships bind you to your disadvantage.
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If
you are unhappy in your life it is largely so because you did not take the
chances to do what you really want. If you spend your life
sacrificing for others you will be very disappointed.
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There
is no shame in being obsequious in the face of superior power. In
fact, it is wise to save one's most compelling charm for adversaries in
power.
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Avoid
pervasive hostility, it will create numerous and subtle enemies and only
saps ones focus and strength.
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The
naive and foolish condemn anger and rage. Both are useful, if not
essential tools. Save them for carefully targeted individuals
at appropriate moments, and be prepared to get them back in kind.
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The essential difference between the terrorist
and the noble conqueror is the quality of the army.
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The
weak and obsessive acutely contemplate decisive action but rarely take it.
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Superiority only exists in the situation. A PhD
does not take one far in a fight with someone fierce and brutal; but in a
structured society the fierce tend to work for those who would be
subjugated in difficult times.
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Assertiveness towards those who have power
over you will always be resented.
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There
is nothing wrong with pride, save that it often will cause you grief.
Those in power will hate you for it. It is far smarter to be humble
when you are powerless. Be proud when you are in a position of
strength.
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Weak
and fearful people deny, and hide from, the horrors
of the world, believing that the pretense of a benign world will make it
so. This self-deception
ultimately creates more horror.
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There
are great risks in being the master of one's own life, but failing to take
them on leads to the most shallow of existences. Those who have chosen to
be subjugated will be the most vociferous critics of your decision to be
your own master.
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Never
assume any conversation is private or confidential.
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The
most effective way to make a threat is to present it as a secret plan to
those you know to be untrustworthy. This adds credibility and
deniability.
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Avoid
any attempts to persuade an adversary that she is wrong. No matter
what she has done, no matter how offensive you find it, you must remember
she believes that it is justified. Her response to attempts to show
her that she is wrong will only reinforce her position.
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Apologize only if you are certain it will achieve some goal, it will
rarely bring you respect or affection. Similarly, whenever possible,
avoid justifying your actions; your justifications will be perceived as
apologies.
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Make
your reactions unpredictable. Overreact by design, respond to a
slight with kindness, the next time with rage. Unpredictability
contributes to strength. Being predictable is the first step
on the path to exploitation.
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If you reward someone excessively, you will
ultimately get more resentment than gratitude. Those rewarded will
feel that you are exploitive for having so superior a person as a
subordinate.
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Never assume you have been forgiven.
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The psychological profiles of the most
effective law enforcers are generally similar to those of the most successful
law breakers.
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The need to be liked is a self-reinforcing
addiction. Make yourself likeable when necessary, but beware
the illusory emotional rewards from those yielding to your charm.
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All ethical and moral values are arbitrary
artifacts from the cultures that set them forth. All political and
military greatness is derived from ignoring them.
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Avoid hurting anyone, but if necessary do it
so severely that they will not be willing or able to retaliate.
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Either Be Diplomatic or Be Devastating. Your adversaries will avenge
minor slights. So never leave them in a position to want to, or be
able to, do so.
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Punishing wrongdoers is
generally futile. Most miscreants, irrespective of their cruelty,
see themselves as victims and their punishment undeserved. And those
that accept it as deserved did not need to be punished.
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